For about a month now, Sarah has been telling me that she's scared to die. I'm not really sure where it has come from, but she mentions it at least three times a week! Now, in just the last 2 weeks, she has been telling me that she's afraid of Jesus!
I think her being afraid of Jesus, is because when we talk to her about her dying phobia, we always tell her that she shouldn't be afraid because when we die, we'll be able to live in Heaven with our family, and with Jesus and Heavenly Father. So now, Jesus has been associated with dying, and no matter what kind of positive spin we put on it, and no matter what Family Home Evenings we have about the subject, it just seems to get worse!
She had a picture of Mary holding baby Jesus in her room, she made me take that out. The picture in Luke and Taylors room had to go in the closet when she sleeps in there. What?!
Every day we have a chat about it, because she brings it up, not me (we're not THAT weird around here) and I am definitely running out of things to tell her. She's only 4! I don't know what to do about it anymore or what to say to her. It's really worrying me for sure. She is afraid to die before Allan and I do, and I try to tell her that when she dies, mommy and daddy will be there waiting for her, and if it's before, Uncle TC will be there waiting for her and it'll be so awesome!! I don't want to lie to her and tell her it's definitely not going to happen before her parents die. Who really knows but God. I HOPE not. I hope it's when she's really old and that's the only reason she does, but I don't know for sure. That's just my hope as a mommy.
Normally, I wouldn't post on my blog expecting responses on a posting, but this one..........TOTALLY ENCOURAGED! HA! Is this completely bizarre or normal? Anyone have any ideas of what to tell her now. We've done all of the primary answers and everything. I'm at my end, and I feel terrible for her. I want her to have some sort of understanding, so this doesn't make her so scared and not sleep at night, like it does.
My poor weird little girl.
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Gosh!! I wish I had some advice for you on this one! I suspect this is something that most parents deal with at some point, well the death part at least. I am going to read the follow up comments in hopes that I can get advice on this if I ever have to deal with it.
Are there any books at the library about it? Our library had a LDS board book that talked about it and Abby felt better about death after we read that, but then again it is the primary answers again....
Aw... So sad! Man, I wish I could help... But seeing as I have no kids, I've never had to deal with this kind of thing! :(
I would just talk a lot about Jesus without the death stuff. Talk about his miracles, his life. Remind her that he was ressurected. You are doing the right things telling her the "Primary" answers. Pray for her.
I feel your pain on this one but don't have too much advice. Kendal has been going on and on about dying and being scared. I haven't heard the I am scared of Jesus yet but wouldn't be suprised if it came up either. She is scared of everything. After the Chuck e Cheese party she said she never wanted to go back there because she they had scary games there...I mean come on...It's Chuck E Cheese. Kids are supposed to love it there!
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